Body-language and nonverbal communication

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Frozen watchfulness

Little children who have been misused, tortured or beaten Show special nonverbal symptoms in behavior. Here are two of them which can be found in all cultures:

  • First there is the frozen watchfulness. This reaction is typical for chronically or acute misused children. Children show this behavior when being explored. They just down move any more, stay motionless and even don`t react when they are touched in a perhaps hurting way (for example by an injection).
  • Secondly they very often address others, even if they don`t know them, in a too open way. without any sign of distance. Instead of retreating or crying if being addressed by strangers, they stay there where they are and smile. This is very untypical for children of this early age. Probably the try to disarm the other person by smiling. This also Shows that their experience is: even if you cry and when you are that anxious there is nobody who will hear you and help you.
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Stranger – Danger or:

 (N)ever talk to a stranger

I of course agree to the six rules for children in order to prevent any kind of bad experience, so that they can keep their boundaries.

But to be honest, I want to talk about meeting strangers in the life as youth and adult.

Globalization is based on meeting strangers, strange people, strange cultures, strange behavior. So, to survive or ……….

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What is strange, who is strange and why, people think, somebody is strange?

I will tell you a little story about a man who as a child, born in Romania, came to Germany at the age of four. In Romania he was brought up in a very old German speaking and German rooted community. So he was used to the German language and the German culture. In those days this German rooted community was addressed as a strange community in Romania, a community of stranger, though they had the Romanian nationality. To bring it to the point: They were Romanians and not Romanians. They were Germans and they were not Germans.

The German government in those days was interested in the reintegration of such German speaking and rooted communities here in Germany. As I was told, German government paid some thousand German Marks for a grown-up person and ……….

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“Die Fremde” or “When we leave”

The film shows very clearly and blunt that at the end it is very difficult to find out who in fact is the stranger, who has to integrate, and what integration really means. To bring it to the point: integration always is a field of inevitable conflicting priorities. And at the end you get the impression that everybody is a stranger.

2010 was the premier of this really embarrassing German movie film. The main issue is to show how important the basic, human right for self-determination, self definition is. This of course includes the human right for women for bodily autonomy.

The film shows that the woman wants to follow her autonomy and to be part of her family. She fights for both. And she experiences how difficult but also how dangerous this fight is. Just by the steady risk of violence.

It is fight up to the desperate experience of complete exhaustion. An experience which catches everybody in the film, everybody in the family. Finally there is no winner. Everybody fades, everybody loses the, everybody finally gets lost in desperation.

The film shows in a melodramatic way, very intensely and directly, that everybody breaks down under the enormous social and special cultural pressure.


Here is the trailer with English subtitles so that you can a first impression.

Here is part one of the film. Via the following link you will find the other parts.

Some information on the intercultural issue of the film in German

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Be aware of …………

“A country which does not guard or protect foreigners (or strangers), will fall or die soon”

Johann Wolfgang von Goethe (1749 – 1832)

One of the most important, famous German poet and writer  brings it to the point!!!!!!

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