Body-language and nonverbal communication

Tag "identity"









Self-optimizing surgery

In South-Corea, and not only there, a booming plastic-surgery-industry is to be found. More than twenty percent of the women had picked up the chance to change their bodily, facial expression by this surgery.

In comparison to this, only five percent of the women in the US do this.

Millions of South-Corean people watched the film “Two hundred pounds”. The main protagonist changes her appearance by plastic-surgery. So one could say one main aspect which characterizes the Corean popculture is the whish of self-optimizing. More and more young women want to look like the dancers of the popstar Psy or Kim Tae-Hee. Her face very often is the model for an operation.

So if looking at these women after surgery which person are you aware of? In whose eyes do you look? How does it feel do look into your friend`s eyes and realize the facial expression of some Popstar? Is it yours? that of your friend? Whom are you Aware of? And how do you feel with this Person?

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Failure is…….

The phenomenon named “failure” is the interpretation of something what has happened and is not a fact.

Failure or the Feeling of failure is not a feature or quality of something but of you, of yourself.

This also means:

the more something called “Change” is connected with the feeling of value for yourself, with self-esteem, with your identity and career, the more things which happen are interpreted as “failure”.


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The body in psychotherapy 7 (Body Identity)


No more support

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Three faces – one face

The older you get, the more you’re yourself

I’m convinced about this wisdom of life.

Of course, if you look at these three women on the photo you see different faces. There’s quite a lot of similar expression on the grandma’s face and the daughter’s face concerning the nose, forehead and the upper part of the face. There is less similarity to the granddaughter there. On the other hand there’s ……..
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The skin is the message – 9  – to be a stranger in oneself

Some weeks ago I wrote about tattoos and the understanding of this skin-message. Today I want to pick up a special kind of tattoo and the effect of irritating marketing. More and more people switch their bodies to unpaid marketing-tools. Especially in summer you’ll be aware of a “Coca-Cola-Shoulder” or a “Lacoste-neck”.

One could think that it’s no longer sufficient to wear some special clothing and to demonstrate your new logo-identity. Doing this you could slip into a Coca-Cola-Identity during the evening or a Lacoste-Indentity on Saturday afternoon while going out for shopping. This is possible by wearing somew clothing Lacoste or another label.

You could change your identities in the way you need it, in the way your mood was like. Or you could change your identity related to the people you want it to communicate with.

Having the Logo-Identity engraved on your body by a tattoo you incorporate this identity.

You are Coca-Cola. Or you are Lacoste. Or you are….

And I ask myself about the meaning of this shift in sheltering under such a Logo-Identity and I ask myself why people choose tattooing in order to live this Logo-Identity. To be this identity.

And sometimes this question becomes even more difficult to answer when you have different Logos being tattooed on your skin. So a part of you is Coca-Cola, a part of you is Lacoste and part of you is…

But who are you then at the end?


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Bound to familism

We all, in the West and the East, live in families. We are brouhgt up by parents. This family life gives us the chance to develop ourseves as human being: To find our identity, to be regarded as a specific personality and to become part of social life.

And yet there are big differences. Differences which …………………….

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Collective Emotions

The common parlance is convinced that you experience the world in the way, in the mood you’re.  It is also convinced that you look at the world in your very personal way and you react to it the same.

Meanwhile scientific research confirms this. I will pick out two main branches of science to illustrate this. The one is the concept of affect-logic based on…………

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German romanticism….

German romanticism….….and Chinese!

It feels like this when I imagine Germans and Western people feeling excluded like me as I told you yesterday. Excluded  by this so charming Chinese smile of a group. Watching the group, looking for some kind of contact, but just facing this smile.

I know about the importance of the group in Chinese social life. I know about the role of group cohesion and it´s relevance for social behaviour, for social functioning and I know about the role of group identity which gives personal orientation. Which also carries personal identity. Which shapes and characterizes identity at all. – In China……………………….

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Why do we need an intercultural training?

This morning I read some notes on Obamas search for identity when he was young. As son of black father from Kenia in Africa and a white mother from the Midwest in the US he searched for his identity. Obama said: “The only chance, to calm down my feeling of isolation, was, to inhale all traditions and social classes”.

People today could call this Obama´s way of integrating himself.

Being so open to all those influences he had met or he was confronted to, reminded me of what Yang Liu had pointed out to me: When I met someone……………………….

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