Body-language and nonverbal communication

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How to banish earworms from your brain

Although it seems maddeningly impossible, new research suggests we really can get rid of that nagging tune that endlessly plays over and over again in our head.  

For those of you who had Carly Rae Jepsen’s “Call Me Maybe” in your head for most of 2012, or haven’t been able to stop your brain from playing “Master of the House” since seeing “Les Miserables” over the holidays, you’ll want to take note.

The trick is this: …………read more

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Movement – our roots

I let myself go in movement. Movements live their own life in me. I don’t know from where a movement starts, from which foot, which hand. I offer my body so that the ideas and the movement can act. “Then I’m again touching my roots”, says the dancer and choreograph Ismael Ivo. His form, his way of expression are unique and deeply convincing.

This photo, made by my colleague Heike Rost, shows the stage, being prepared for a dance- performance

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Rising dragon around the dome of Cologne, or: what is cultural integration Part II

…..I realized the birth of this picturesque image I talked about earlier. This image reminded me of experiences which I had as consultant and coach in companies when they follow a fusion process. A fusion in business is based on an intercultural process. One company with its special culture joins, meets and unites with another company, with its typical culture. In contrast to official wording most of these processes are a non-equal-fusion.

Most of those fusions in business failed. They faile because of a wrong approach of understanding intercultural communication. Intercultural communication and integration in business often means: We put those two companies together, have a look, try to find out the most effective and efficient elements of structure and efficiency in order to build up the new company on these analytical results.

Intercultural communication and integration does not function like this. ……………….

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The visual competence is also based on gender and sex

Nonverbal communication and body reading as an ability to be aware of the other is radically based on the competence of awareness. Scientific research shows that this competence is rooted in (brain) physiology on the other hand. And related to experience on the other hand. Experience so to say is closely connected with the surrounding context, society and cultural factors.

To see, so to say, means not to see. And not to see means …………

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Tea without Milk: impossible

it is not enough to understand the words you have to experience in order to learn

When I visited India for the first time I really enjoyed nature, culture and of course the people. Especially in South-India, where I stayed for quite a long time, I always felt invited when visiting little villages or asking for a cup of tea in some family-house. They served English tea of course, that means strong tea with a lot of milk and sugar. I like English tea, it feels so smooth in the mouth. 😉

I love this sweetness of English tea and was really glad, that this kind of tea would be served within a minute. But one day within a second I felt shocked by the Indian version of the English tea. Of course they served strong tea with milk and sugar, but the milk ………………

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Knowing is knowing not to know

When I went to India for the first time 1976 I wanted to explore the country, to get accustomed to the people and the culture. As people in India speak English it was quite easy for me to communicate. By doing this my interest grew to learn more about what happens in society, in politics and in rural life.

By talking I of course also tried to let the other know what my knowledge of …………..

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Well language is always also body language. I talked about this already. Remembering Wittgensteins sentence, the German philosopher, language is sounding movement or the sound of movement. And movement is feeling. You know that feeling in English also means emotion.

A lot is written in psychology and psychoanalysis about this. One main concept is the following. I put it into simple sentences, I hope you forgive me for that. 😉

When a child is born it feels ………………….

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Being a Manager in China 1

Most of the companies prepare their managers for the visit to or the job in China. Popular is an intercultural workshop where you can get information about the country, the culture, the people, the climate andsoon. Often participants of those workshops try to get familiar a bit with these habits and rules of behavior or communication by roleplay.

Yet this is only: learning the vocabulary and grammatics. This is not ( yet ) real life. Of course you would say this resembles to learn swimming or driving a car. And of course you will argue: it takes quite a long time to drive your car correctly, safely and joyfully.

Being confronted with a new culture, with very different people with odd and strange habits produces quite a big stress and strain for ………………

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China for kids

When I came across this website I felt like a kid. 😉

And at the same time I felt invited to learn more about China, the Chinese people and the Chinese culture by following the advice of this website in a very playful way. Playing and exploring always is like an adventure. and to be honest I am convinced that being part of an adventure help to vanish all obstacles, all resistance to any kind of intercultural problems. And being a child invites you to explore a culture more or less on a noverbal level. And this is the chance you and we have. Trust this playful, nonverbal approach to you and the other. Trust the stranger in yourself and make him familiar to yourself. 😉

Trust the child in yourself.

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Chinese language is body-language – interrupting communication- (4)

Volker once told me about this specific difficulty when filming in China. He remembered the time when he did a documentation film on psychotherapy in China. There were many people who sat in the room, his camera “pointed” to a person, standing, who talked about an experience. After some time this person stopped talking, so that Volker after some time tried to focus on another person, who was moving a little or, as it seemed to be, was probably the next to talk about his experience. Doing this  led to the point of missing an important moment. The Chinese who had talked and stopped talking suddenly went on talking, went on talking in a way as if he had not interrupted his presented experience. And it was important what he talked about.

In Germany or probably in other Western countries we get a feeling of ………………..

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