Body-language and nonverbal communication

Tag "experience"

fluid intelligence







Peaks of fluid intelligence

Now the truth about intelligence is scientifically proved. The results of this study encourage all people, especially those who still fear not to be intelligent enough.

Intelligence skills peak at different ages. This is the most important result of the latest study on intelligence ……..

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It`s the music….

No human culture has been identified that doesn’t have music. For so many people music is the source of the most powerful and significant experiences in their lives. But what is the compelling force scientist ask. More or less they found out, that there is no holy grail of a mathematical or acoustical explanation. The most important aspect is the complex manner in which music is embedded into social functions.

There’s nothing secret about music’s power in our lives even if we’re a long way from having a proper understanding of it. Listening and understanding are two different approaches. There are very different from each other. If you want to get to know more about it just read the following text.

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Brief historical background of the Bioenergetic Analysis (BA)

The psychoanalysts Wilhelm Reich, Otto Fenichel and Sandor Ferenczi had put the body into the focus of their interest in psychotherapy. Since then, a variety of body psychotherapy schools had been developed.

Alexander Lowen, founder of BA/bioenergetics, had met Reich in the 50s of last century in the seminar to discuss the psychoanalytic theory and therapeutic practice and the social importance of the same. The impulse itself by being involved in a therapy together with Wilhelm Reich with the experience of one’s body and the interaction of personality / character structure and …………….

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Frozen watchfulness

Little children who have been misused, tortured or beaten Show special nonverbal symptoms in behavior. Here are two of them which can be found in all cultures:

  • First there is the frozen watchfulness. This reaction is typical for chronically or acute misused children. Children show this behavior when being explored. They just down move any more, stay motionless and even don`t react when they are touched in a perhaps hurting way (for example by an injection).
  • Secondly they very often address others, even if they don`t know them, in a too open way. without any sign of distance. Instead of retreating or crying if being addressed by strangers, they stay there where they are and smile. This is very untypical for children of this early age. Probably the try to disarm the other person by smiling. This also Shows that their experience is: even if you cry and when you are that anxious there is nobody who will hear you and help you.
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“Chinese” or the autistic pattern of behavior

Chinese very often, usually, stay with other Chinese in a Chinese group, even if they are abroad or in another country. They do this even, if they do not have to do it or even if this is not helpful to be integrated into the other culture.

I once listened to a key-note at a conference of intercultural communication and I was astonished that the speaker identified this pattern of behavior as an autistic pattern of behavior. This may sound cruel at the first sight, this may sound devaluating but it is not meant as devaluation or rejection or Chinese people or culture.

A pattern of behavior means that not the person is autistic but the behavior has elements or attitudes of an autistic pattern of behavior. An autistic pattern of behavior is at least characterized by two or three typical elements.

  • The one is not being familiar to relationship or social communication, relating and communicating makes him frightened.
  • The second is the difficulty in making contact on a personal level and/or experiencing the other person also emotionally.
  • People with this pattern of behavior sometimes seem to be chaotic, but in fact, they are very intelligent, disciplined, but mostly in some special aspects or fields only.

Of course Chinese are not autistic, of course Chinese can live relationships and communication and a social life. Of course Chinese are not only disciplined. But still it is obvious that the pattern of behavior has an impact on the experience on an intercultural level. So, even if they’re not autistic, maybe they’re experienced as autistic and people relate to them as if they were autistic.

This way of communication and interaction on an intercultural level therefore leads often to a big misunderstanding, to some kind of cultural or communicative rejection and strengthens of stereotypes/prejudices or renewing stereotypes/prejudices.

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Failure instead of discipline is necessary


Often people fear that they’re lost when they feel that efficiency and money as highest values. This happens often especially when you’re brought up in a culture of high discipline. In such an education, under such a development or in such a culture there’s no space for failure.

But to be honest; it’s very human, that ………..

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Just there (Journey to China No.7)


He seems to be present. He knows where is looking at. He is characterised by his experience. His face is tells stories, without words.

He seems to be proud of whatever aspect.

And he is just there and yet so mysterious.


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Is there a difference between you and me? (An embodyed story -7-)

of course I could relax besides this young lady. I felt quite comfortable lying there when my attention always moved back to these faces. The puppets touched each other and gave the impression ” we belong together”. We are here and we know what we want. We are aware of YOU being here but we do NOT address you. We don`t want you to become important by ………    

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The body in psychotherapy 4 (talking about embodiment in the relationship)

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The body in psychotherapy 2 (contact and communication)

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