Body-language and nonverbal communication

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Woman flirting with her hair

Here is one more little information about I will call it „hair-gestures“ of women. It is quite, as probably most of you will know, important for the relationship between men and women. 😉

Here are four quite important gestures which are familiar to people in the western hemisphere:

  • A woman softly touches her hair and throws it back. This means “Hello, I want and need your awareness”
  • A woman is talking to you and puts her hair behind her ear. She shows that she feels very good and familiar in this situation, together with you.
  • If a woman tears her hair (out) and…………….
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The body in psychotherapy 2 (contact and communication)

No more support

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The difference is the success

maybe some of you have already heard of this unique old man, calles grandpa. He modells for his granddaughter, who sells women`s clothes in her internet shop. Just after she presented her grandpa modelling her clothes a not understable success began.

Why one may ask?

I think it is a matter of difference and a matter of strangeness, which symbols something which you really did not expect. And when it`s there, you unconsciously feel some kind of a deep commotion. You loose your controlled mixture of awareness and interpretation of life and are surprised in a positive way.

So let yourself be surprised again in your own life and look what happens to your (fixed) controll system. 😉

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A matter of opinion

Psychologists of Bristol University have found out, that there is big and radical gender difference in perception and awareness. ( )

On the one hand women are better aware of little differences than men. On the other hand if watching a person on a photo, men mostly look at the person`s face whereas women also look at the body as a whole.

This of course leads to the impression of big differences in life experience. Both live in the same world, but see different things or aspects of this world.

And of course behave in a different way, present themselves in a different habit.

This difference is quite a stable element of nonverbal communication. So to say a fact which cannot be neglected in it´s important influence on communication. Of course this fact also is a chance to enrich gender communication. By being aware of this fact and integrating the consequences in one´s own behavior. Or by being aware of this and addressing the other in order to reflect both perspectives as two parts of the same coin.

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The visual competence is also based on gender and sex

Nonverbal communication and body reading as an ability to be aware of the other is radically based on the competence of awareness. Scientific research shows that this competence is rooted in (brain) physiology on the other hand. And related to experience on the other hand. Experience so to say is closely connected with the surrounding context, society and cultural factors.

To see, so to say, means not to see. And not to see means …………

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Touched by the shadow

The dark red rose decorates a little girl’s hand while the girl’s eyes dive into the rose’s flavor. Both, the girl and the dark red rose, form a meaningful unit of presence, awareness, being in touch with each other and thus creating reality.

The girl of course is in love with this little boy whose shadow leans towards her. It is an emotional reality with the unspoken message “You’re here when you’re not here. You’re here when I want you to be here and you are near when I’m aware of this beautiful dark rose.”

Of course one would say the little boy is not there. It is……………………

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Chinese language is body-language -writing graphics- (2)

Well, I want to add some comments on the issue which I started yesterday. To focus it: Chinese language is body language at least because of two aspects:

  • the pronunciation
  • the writing / painting the graphics and “letters”.

If you want to write/paint very properly, that means, if you want that the person who reads, what you painted, knows what you mean by this word or graphic, you also have to be very calm and centered in yourself. And being centered is a very important state of emotion, state of bodily presence. Connected with a sensible awareness of what is going in yourself, what becomes alive in yourself, what you want to express or communicate and what your interest is to write this graphic or another one. All is grounded in the necessity to be also aware of your counterpart, the person with whom you communicate.

It is not only just writing down some letters or graphics.

In some way it reminds me of the monks ………..

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Chinese language is body-language -pronunciation- (1)

At the China-Day in Duesseldorf one week ago  there was a performance by the head of Deutsche Sprachschule. This performance was interesting in so far as the Chinese teacher pointed out two difficulties when learning  the Chinese language:

  • the pronunciation and
  • and the Chinese writing, the Chinese graphic character.

While listening to her I was astonished about the direct connection between the spoken Chinese word / sentence and the  body expression. Both seem to belong to each other. Both are the two sides of the coin.

Chinese language is, to make it short, a body-language. That means, ……………………..

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