Body-language and nonverbal communication

Growing lovesickness in Europe and China












Growing lovesickness in Europe and China

More and more young people, around the age of 27 to 35 moan about lovesickness. Of course everybody knows that this feeling is a part of life. But it is also part of life that after some time of moaning people find a new partner with whom they relate.

The fact I talk about is relevant in so far as more and more of those people also complain about the shortness of their relationships. This means a love relationship lasts not so long as it did before. The people in Germany therefore already talk about “Generation lovesickness”.

Of course there are many reasons for this development in society and yet one can say that the speed, fragmentation and the essential change of the work is one main reason for that. People live in a spiral of always getting faster, higher, richer and so on. There is no ……, no continuity, no safety in this development.

This of course influences the way people are related to each other. Insofar the tendency that a relationship does not last so long as before, mirrors this social development.

On the other hand, there’s still some good tradition, some stable ground of experience, some basic cultural balance in Europe that even if this development becomes worse, people will not get lost, that means plunge into loneliness. If not, at least there is a knowing about the importance of such character of a relationship and well-being in a relationship.

One main experience of people who work in lovesick people is the following: Offer yourself as a witness who is there for you, who listens to you and understands the situation you’re in and the feelings, which are connected because they already had the same experience. Insofar supporting those people is similar to a self-help-group. Such a group also mirrors and that is an important argument a good stable, reliable and trustful relationship.

So, it is not a love-relationship which people are offered in this group or support-system but a human stable relationship, in which you can trust. Today and tomorrow.

When thinking about Chinese people who I know and reading about relationship in China nowadays, and I mean living in big cities and metropolises, leads to the conclusion of an even more severe development and process in China according to the issue I talked about. Even worse I fear because in big cities and metropolises there is not as much traditional safety and and relevant thinking / knowing about the importance and relevance of such a stable relationship.


And believe me, I know quite a lot of Chinese younger people who talk about this so clearly and constantly. The suffer from this and it seems that they don`t see any light at the end of the tunnel. It therefore seems that they believe in this as fate.

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