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Burning desire

To burn with desire and keep quiet about it is the greatest punishment we can bring on ourselves”

Federico Garcia Lorca

The burning desire is radically human. It mirrors the intensive inner energy, which is so to say the utmost emotional need to be expressed. It has to be expressed, whatever intensitiy you will feel.

To be quiet about it means in this sense not to express this desire not at all. to be quiet means to resist to it`s inner dynamics and rhythm. To be quiet means to reduce your life, your vitality, the respect you can have for yourself.

This burning desire keeps us going, keeps us moving out into the world. This burning desire carries and supports our emotions, our inner life. This burning desire structures our mind, our brain, which accompanies us to find orientation.

This burning desire is the essence of our awareness. Awareness of the world around me, the awareness of myself and the awareness of the others around me wo give sense to my life.

Overwhelming, blind discipline, steady and rigid rationality as well as fighting (self-) control are enemies of this burning desire.

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“Chinese” or the autistic pattern of behavior

Chinese very often, usually, stay with other Chinese in a Chinese group, even if they are abroad or in another country. They do this even, if they do not have to do it or even if this is not helpful to be integrated into the other culture.

I once listened to a key-note at a conference of intercultural communication and I was astonished that the speaker identified this pattern of behavior as an autistic pattern of behavior. This may sound cruel at the first sight, this may sound devaluating but it is not meant as devaluation or rejection or Chinese people or culture.

A pattern of behavior means that not the person is autistic but the behavior has elements or attitudes of an autistic pattern of behavior. An autistic pattern of behavior is at least characterized by two or three typical elements.

  • The one is not being familiar to relationship or social communication, relating and communicating makes him frightened.
  • The second is the difficulty in making contact on a personal level and/or experiencing the other person also emotionally.
  • People with this pattern of behavior sometimes seem to be chaotic, but in fact, they are very intelligent, disciplined, but mostly in some special aspects or fields only.

Of course Chinese are not autistic, of course Chinese can live relationships and communication and a social life. Of course Chinese are not only disciplined. But still it is obvious that the pattern of behavior has an impact on the experience on an intercultural level. So, even if they’re not autistic, maybe they’re experienced as autistic and people relate to them as if they were autistic.

This way of communication and interaction on an intercultural level therefore leads often to a big misunderstanding, to some kind of cultural or communicative rejection and strengthens of stereotypes/prejudices or renewing stereotypes/prejudices.

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Competetion for the best!

It is not a surprise what I heard yesterday at the Business and Investors Forum China 2013 in Düsseldorf / Germany. I visited a special panel discussion about the competition in looking for high qualified new entries in business. The presented information was not new at all. Again the executives panel speakers underlined one main – principal – difference between China and Germany:

  • In China      students ……….
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You are your sunshine

I just found a Chinese and into English translated sentence at fb.

成为自己的阳光。Be your own sunshine

This sentence at one struck my mind and reminded me of a German ………..

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Failure instead of discipline is necessary

如果能从失败中汲取教训,失败亦是成功。

Often people fear that they’re lost when they feel that efficiency and money as highest values. This happens often especially when you’re brought up in a culture of high discipline. In such an education, under such a development or in such a culture there’s no space for failure.

But to be honest; it’s very human, that ………..

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