Body-language and nonverbal communication

Bikini foreigners in China

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Bikini foreigners in China

It’s reported via the news in China that foreigners in Shanghai went sun-bathing during the last weeks before the big rain started. A lot of photos were presented, photos of foreigners enjoying the sun in the park and wearing bikinis. Apparently this is news-worthy in China!

For us in western countries it’s normal. It’s just a good habit to feel comfortable, to react to the sun and to enjoy outside in the fresh air. This is a very big contrast to China.

A contrast at least ……….seen out of two perspectives:

  • The one is: Chinese people traditionally like white skin. So it’s just understandable that they avoid to be outside in the sun, to go out into the park for sun-bathing. With bikini or without.
  • The other reason is: it`s more personal, more emotional and thus more offensive while sun-bathing in a bikini or in shorts. More erotic? You show more skin and people will look at you especially in China when too much skin is presented. This also can lead to some awareness or experience of excitement, of erotic excitement.

The Chinese culture seems not to be ready enough to face such a “provoking” behaviour in public. To be confronted with such an erotic like behaviour.

I think this is one of the reasons why foreigners in bikinis made the headline in China within the last weeks. The more you’re not used to looking at bare skin in public the more you are unconsciously irritated by this specific look at foreigners but you’re also irritated unconsciously by your own feelings of excitement, by arousal, by erotic unconscious fantasy. And thus when this feeling and fantasy is unconsciously rejected, people “fight” against it. Psychologically seen one could say: the more you fight against it, the deeper you are unconsciously touched or driven by this erotic feeling and fantasy.

From the western perspective this is just normal. We’re more used to be aware of this kind of nonverbal communication, presentation and communication in public. Even more used to some kind of erotic attitude. This does not necessarily lead to more sexual fantasies or sexualisation of self-presentation in public. It can do but it does not necessarily lead to this.

The problem is not the bare skin of bikini-dressed women in public neither it’s the problem of your own fantasy or feeling of (erotic) excitement.

The problem is that you’re not used to deal with this on a social level. The more it’s forbidden, the more it’s rejected, the more difficult it is for you to handle your own excitement, your fantasy and your own erotic feeling.

Psychologically seen this often leads to weird reactions just like punishment, deep critics, social rejection and so on.

http://shanghaiist.com/2015/06/12/laowai_in_bikinis.php

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